These days, dogs are involved in our everyday lives more than ever. Venues and businesses recognise how important our dogs are and that they are a huge part of our family. More and more are open to receiving our four-legged friends, with specific dog cafes and bars popping up across the country, you can even take your dog to the cinema with all his furry friends.
So, it’s not unusual to have your fur baby involved in one of the biggest days of your life, after all dogs are family, so why shouldn’t they be involved?
Having your dog at your wedding can be wonderful. But attending a wedding, with all that it brings for a dog, no matter what size, age or breed, can be very exciting but also quite an overwhelming experience. That’s why I spend so much time talking to clients about their dog as part of the decision-making process.
How do you decide what’s best for them?
It’s important to really think about your dog. I know this may sound silly as you know your dog inside out right!! But have you really thought about how they may feel and how they could potentially respond on the day given this is not any usual day?
Dogs are sentient beings and feel emotions just like us, so you can imagine, a dog experiencing all the love, joy and happiness that surrounds them at a wedding is fantastic for a dog!! They soak up the atmosphere like little sponges and can feed on all that excitement.
Therefore, taking time to consider how they may respond will help to manage all expectations and build a clear picture of your pooch for anyone expected to take care of them on the day.
Start with the basics
First, and before any further decisions are taken, really think about your dog’s personality and especially what experiences they have been exposed to in their life already How did/do they handle different situations?
Factors such as their age, personality, their likes, and dislikes, how socialised are they? Are they easily excited, vocal, a jumper? Do they like children and people or being carried or fussed over? Can they adapt quickly to new environments? How is their general health? How far will they be expected to travel and how, in a crated vehicle or secured in a car seat?
Some dogs, especially those that were born during lockdown may have not yet experienced being with large groups of people or visited many places. Taking time to let your dog experience these things leading up to your wedding day will help.
Take them for regular walks in more busier areas giving them time to meet and greet people, dogs and children. Introduce them to as many family members that will be attending the wedding and let them spend time together.
Take them out for trips in the car. If you’ve booked your dog-friendly wedding venue, take them there and let them have a sniff and walk about so the place can start to feel familiar to them.
For those very energetic, excited pupsters that find it hard to stand still or keep 4 paws on the ground, it may be worth investing in a little training. By investing, we don’t always mean money, it could be your time and utilising some of the free reputable training videos and advice out there. Remember, all our dogs are not born knowing naturally what to do and how to behave, like babies, we must invest our time and patience into teaching them good manners.
Most people will have booked the wedding date well in advance so hopefully you can plan in as many activities as you feel necessary to help your pooch as you will have time
Next – How do you want to include them?
Then think about how you potentially want them included in the day and how will they cope. Will they be expected to meet and greet the wedding party? Will they be expected to wear something different than usual and for how long? Will they have responsibility for the rings and if so, how? Are they used to having their photo taken? Has your photographer worked with animals before? Do they respond well to basic commands? Who will and how will they take care of them pre, during and post-wedding?
I get asked for dogs to be involved in weddings in so many ways. From ushers to bridesmaids, ring bearers to best man. Most things are possible if your dog feels happy and confident.
Helping them to get wedding ready is the best wedding prep you and more importantly, they need. I mentioned earlier about taking them to the venue to familiarise themselves, well this is the same for new attire. Whether it’s just a new collar or harness to a dickie bow or full-blown outfit, letting them wear it little and often leading up to the big day helps. They get use to the feel and smell which can help to reduce stress.
If they are participating in the ceremony, who will walk them down the aisle, are they familiar with your dog, can they handle them well and keep them under control and more importantly, do they get on/like each other?
Keep the ring-bearing device simple and easy to access. Not only do you not want either the best man or groom to be struggling and stressing to get the rings out, the fussing around your dog’s collar or harness could also cause them to become stressed or worried. There are lots of good, safe, and simple devices now available on the market and to be honest, even a new, bright, shiny, and simple carabiner clip does the job extremely well.
Check if your photographer has worked with dogs before or has experience of dogs.
It’s not a deal-breaker if they haven’t, however, you will need to discuss with them how you would like your dog involved in the photography and I suggest you stress that the photographer will have to have realistic expectations. For example, asking a dog to sit for 2-3 mins whilst they set the shot up will not necessarily work. The action of sitting is not a natural one for any dog and is a performance, so asking them to sit quietly then do something else after a prolonged period will be too much and you/the photographer won’t get the desired result.
Decide who will take care of your pooch
Friends and family members who you know and trust with your dog can help, but if they’re at the wedding wouldn’t you prefer them to relax and enjoy yours and their family day too?
Having a professional pet care Chaperone to take care of pooch can have enormous benefits, least of all it can provide you with a complete solution that is stress, worry and hassle-free.
I spend time getting to know clients and their dogs, not only to help manage their expectations but to ensure that the health and welfare of their precious pooch is the priority, hence asking lots of questions about each individual dog.
In addition, in the lead-up to the wedding, I get to know you and your pooch. From the initial consultation to our familiarisations sessions where we look to assess each dog based on the information you provide and our own experience. I monitor and record your dog’s body language and how they respond directly to me by trialing some of our tried and tested methods to engage, relax and build a bond with your dog that helps both of us.
If at any time I feel that your dog would just not cope with attending your wedding we can talk through the concerns and we may decide that they do not attend however, we could look to involve them in other ways and we will always provide advice on this.
So, as we said earlier, having your dog at your wedding can be a wonderful experience but please think it through and plan in any potential activities to help make the day the best it can be for you and more importantly your fur baby! Happy planning folks!
Getting married shouldn’t cost the earth, literally!
It’s a grey, cold, rainy day in September, we’ve put the fire on for the very first time this year! The boys are lying asleep, snoring, twitching, in front of the fire no doubt dreaming of running after squirrels and rabbits on Barlaston Downs. I have some downtime this week to take stock and complete a number of business future-proofing tasks which also includes writing up our Sustainability Commitment statement and I got to thinking………..
Eco friendly! Environment! Sustainability! Go Green! Words that have been sprinkled around for several years with a much heftier price tag attached to most actions and not always front of mind when planning your special day!
Once over we would’ve spent many hours trawling through specialist bridal magazines, relying on specific articles to help direct us in our quest to ‘do the right thing’, which only came along once in a blue moon. Or frantically typing into search engines trying to find every type of wedding supplier that had a more eco-conscious focus.
Making considered choices
But how times have changed. Now more than ever it’s easier and in most cases, cheaper to make those considered ‘weducated’ choices in a fraction of the time it takes to say, ‘I am planning an eco-friendly wedding!” Thanks to the likes of Sir David Attenborough, environmental activists, scientists, and governments, who have dedicated time, money, and focus to highlight the need to act sooner than later, more and more businesses big and small, are not only waking up to the importance and necessity of making changes, but some are also streets ahead ready and waiting to help you.
We’re one of those small businesses whose journey started back in 2017 to become a ‘greener’ business and we will continue to focus and develop our Sustainability Policy throughout the year. In the meantime, you can read more on what we already have in place here so you know your pooch needn’t miss out on your special day.
In addition, rather than me wasting time rewriting perfectly good advice, hints, and tips, I thought I would take a little time out to help by providing a list of key organisations you can check out when planning your Eco-friendlier wedding.
Everything you need is one click away (no need to travel – you’re already reducing your carbon footprint) from planning YOUR day in a way that helps to make a difference for the better, so sit back, click away, and enjoy #yourwelcome
Keep things simple
For a quick and easy option use, trusted, tried, and tested online directories that should be able to save you time and direct you to a range of more eco-friendly businesses.
Companies submitting information for their online listing will include key elements of their business that current trends highlight, using key buzz words and important environmental factors that customers are looking for.
These directories can include everything from sourcing venues to local food, to eco-friendly wedding gifts lists, wedding dresses and even your wedding rings.
Our favourite directories are:
Guides For Brides
Choose Your Venue
The Natural Wedding Company
Most of the above will also provide online planning tools so you can keep all your information, easily accessible in one place.
Keep it simple for your pooch
There are also several easy things you can do when looking to include your beloved dog in your special day without compromising your eco-conscience.
Want them to wear something new for the wedding – think about where you may source any new doggie attire. For example – Handmade Dog produces beautiful collars, leads and bowties made from ‘one-off’ unique tweeds that are woven by independent weavers on the Isles of Harris and Lewis
Using a Wedding Chaperone?
If you are using a dedicated professional pet care/Wedding Chaperone to take care of your dog, you can ask them a number of questions in advance eg:
- Check if they have any environmental policy in place? What/if anything are they doing already to make a difference?
- If they are not already doing so, ask them to use biodegradable/compostable poop bags when taking care of your dog.
- What environmentally friendly cleaning products are they using to clean vehicles?
- How are their standard systems and procedures helping the environment?
- If they also sell pet products that they may use at the wedding, what process or criteria do they have in place when sourcing/stocking products? Are they natural products, what about packaging etc?
Don’t be afraid to ask any of the above when planning to include your pooch. I know as a responsible business owner these questions wouldn’t phase me and in fact, I would welcome them as they are already ingrained into our ways of working.
Hopefully, you have found this article useful, I know it’s helped me given the task in hand currently! Now it’s time for our boys to go out for their second walk of the day and for me to don my waterproofs again before feet up and a glass of vino!
Happy walking and planning folks!
They say you should never work with children or animals and whilst I admit there are some challenges, I do not agree with the statement!
In my previous role, working with a fab education team producing resources for all age groups, where we actually involved and empowered children, we produced some of our greatest work; which I am proud to say is the legacy today. And now I get to work with the greatest love (other than hubby of course) of my life, dogs – and I can honestly say it is the most fulfilling and rewarding job I have ever had.
As long-term dog owners ourselves, myself and hubby understand and appreciate how much they are a part of the family and we look to involve our boys, Oscar and Barney (two jolly Golden Retrievers) in as many activities with us as possible! We take them on holiday with us, to the pub (must admit trying to get Oscar past a couple of our locals can be a tad embarrassing at times!), hiking, shopping where possible and I have even taken them to business meetings. We try to give them and us as many shared experiences that we can enjoy as a family unit and then treasure those memories forever.
That’s why when we registered the business back in 2015 there was never any question or doubt that we would look to provide a service that ensures your furbaby, along with all other family and loved ones can take part in one of the big, if not the biggest days of your life! I can honestly say that Oscar was the key inspiration and when Barney came along, he just cemented the idea and the That’s Pawfect Wedding Chaperone® service was born.
For many couples, their dog is their first baby together. It cements their relationship like no other and through sharing the responsibility of owning a dog, helps to build the foundations for the future together. Owning a dog means that you have to work on your communication skills, develop a ‘team working’ environment and there’s always an element of compromise, hence you have the makings of some great building blocks towards getting married and introducing children into the mix!
Therefore having your dog (first baby) involved on your Wedding Day seems only natural, doesn’t it! Not only that, but it’s also so wonderful to experience the look on the wedding party’s faces, to hear the aah’s and ooh’s as they get to appreciate that special moment when a dog appears. Witnessing how each couple and their furry family member interact to make lifetime memories to share is completely priceless and something I will never tire of.
I’m now with dogs 7 days a week/52 weeks of the year, from very small ones to great big tall ones and everything in-between. Working and living with dogs every day is never dull and is so rewarding. They constantly surprise me with their quirky natures, their ability to learn and adapt, and the never-ending love and support they provide for their owners.
We’re extremely proud! Proud to have launched the first-ever Chaperone service in the West Midlands and one of the very first across the UK. Proud to have worked for some lovely couples and their dogs over the years and even more proud to achieve a consistent 5-star customer service rating since launch. We’ve also been nominated by our couples in The Wedding Industry Awards (TWIA) for the past two years, winning the West Regional Final last year. And super excited to announce that we have been nominated again this year!!
That’s Pawfect Wedding Chaperone®– “We take the lead whilst you’re tying the knot!”